How To Know If A Sagittarius Man Is Playing You (7 Signs To Look For)

by Anna Kovach, relationship astrologer
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Are you worried that your Sagittarius man is playing you? Well, Sagittarius men definitely have a reputation, these guys are so non-committal and always looking to have a good time. They’re not very serious when it comes to their romantic relationships and often get dubbed the player.

This is why you need to know the signs a Sagittarius man is playing you. He is a lot more sneaky than you might expect. This guy loves abundance and excess so you’re probably not the only woman he is messing around with.

You need to get to the bottom of how to know if a Sagittarius man is playing you. The signs are all there, you just need to know what to look out for.

And if you’re serious about him, then you need the information on how to know if a Sagittarius man is serious about you.

In this article, I will give you everything you need to know and understand about a Sagittarius man and his notorious player skills. So keep on reading to find out how to know if a Sagittarius man is playing you.

How To Know If A Sagittarius Man Is Playing You

Sagittarius men are very attractive. This is because of their freedom-loving independence. These guys are a lot of fun to be with and there is something truly magical about them. Meeting a Sagittarius man can change your world in an instant. 

But his independence and free spirit are also one of the causes of why he inflicts so much pain on so many women. He is a vagabond and he refuses to be tied down by anyone, especially in a relationship. 

If you think you are the only woman in his life, then think again. The Sagittarius usually has a couple of women fawning over him. This is because he isn’t really interested in the intimacy of a relationship, but he is looking for all the physical benefits. 

Knowing a Sagittarius man is knowing that he is probably playing you. Relationships just aren’t his speed. He wants to have fun, and that is all he wants, usually. Finding a Sagittarius man who actually wants to commit is a very rare occurrence. 

I know this might hurt hearing this, but it is better to know what you are getting yourself into than be heartbroken and disappointed in the future.

Warning Signs A Sagittarius Man Is Playing You

1. You’re On The Backburner

A certain thing about a Sagittarius is that he knows what he’s about. He has an innate sense of right, wrong, and ethics in general. He typically has no issue aligning perfectly with his own morals and priorities. Sagittarians are fire signs, meaning that they act out exactly what their truth is. 

For this reason, with a Sagittarius, you can know that their actions really do speak louder than their words.

If he’s not listening to your suggestions or making lots of promises that he isn’t following through on then you can be sure that there is an issue. The issue here is that he’s living out his values… and apparently, it isn’t you that he values. 

Sagittarians are smart, so it likely is not that he isn’t hearing you. He knows what you need from him, in other words. If he still is putting you off or displaying an “oh, she’ll understand” attitude, then you can know that your Sagittarius man is just messing around with you. 

If he truly cared, he would at least show signs of trying to accommodate your wishes. No regard to what you’re saying is a big red flag that a Sagittarius man is playing you.

2. He’s Too Insensitive

A Sagittarius is going to be a straightforward person. They can’t stand a liar and so they aspire to be honest… even when it’s hurtful. The thing is that a Sagittarius who is in a relationship does have the capability of toning it down for a person they love. 

The Sagittarius can be gentler in their approach. They often think they are doing you a favor by not sugar coating their words. But if he’s ever upset you by his words and yet he continues pounding you with truth bombs that hurt in their execution, it’s a sign that he doesn’t really value your feelings. 

If a Sagittarius is truly into someone, they will attempt to keep them feeling good. After all, it’s good to invest in what you want to keep around – and he definitely knows this!

If he’s making you cry or stress out and then validating it with something like “I’m just telling the truth!” or “You’re being too sensitive,” then he’s not really valuing how his actions are making you feel. A Sagittarius who is serious about you will care about how the way they’re speaking is making you feel.

3. He Dips Out No Matter What You Say

It’s true, a Sagittarius needs some space and freedom. This is evident from their ruler, Jupiter. Jupiter has no concept of limitations, and so they free roam everywhere because in their eyes the world is their playground. This is natural and to be expected.

A Sagittarius knows that when he enters a serious relationship, he is sacrificing some of his freedom since most partners would like to have some concept of where their man is! This is just par for the course and a Sagittarius who is serious will know that. 

This is part of the reason why Sagittarians struggle in monogamous relationships. Their partner usually has a concern or two about their actions and would at least like to be in the know about what they’re up to! Sagittarians require freedom, and oftentimes they just can’t get enough in an established partnership. 

If you’ve made your boundaries clear and yet he continues pushing against them to gain some space then you may want to reconsider who you’re dating. The partners of a Sagittarius need unreal amounts of patience and flexibility with the Sagittarius. 

If he isn’t doing it for you, then you may need to think about hooking up with a sign that respects monogamy and limits a bit more!

4. He Deflects Conversations About Getting Serious

Okay, so you took some deep breaths, did some yoga, meditated, and now you’re feeling ready to have a good, calm, and productive talk with your Sagittarius about your needs and expectations. You sit down and begin to open up… annnnd he’s making jokes again. 

It’s totally typical to become frustrated by the Sagittarians inability to take anything seriously. With topics about limits and expectations, it’s like he starts making the sound of a dial up computer. He’s internally checked out while you’re pouring your heart on the table! 

A partner who wants to be with you and only you will pay attention when you’re being honest. I recommend that you try talking to him about your concerns and then sit back and watch his actions. As I said, fire signs will tell you the truth with their actions.

If he still acts the way he did before, like you never even said anything, then it’s time to consider the fact that you’re being played! 

More Surefire Signs A Sagittarius Man Is Using You

5. He Is Always Distant

No matter what you do or say it feels like your Sagittarius man just isn’t getting any closer to you. He is always really distant and seems to have a lot of trouble with becoming vulnerable with you. 

He will deflect and turn your serious conversation into a joke. When you try to share with him to connect with him on a deeper level he will run away or make you feel like you are crazy. He is with you for one reason and one reason only. 

He is always going to be a bit of a freedom seeker, even if he is deeply in love with a woman. But when a Sagittarius man is using you, you’ll always wonder where he is and what he is doing. 

He simply doesn’t want to get close to you and the more you try the further away he seems to go.

You may also want to readWhen A Sagittarius Man Goes Cold — Here’s Why

6. He’s Not Reliable

When a Sagittarius man is playing you, he really doesn’t care if you trust him or not. He isn’t really interested in your well-being. He is only in your life so that he can get what he wants, and then disappear when things become inconvenient.

If you notice that he says one thing and does another, chances are very good that he’s just using you. When he is not reliable, it is usually cos he doesn’t care and is only playing you. If he cared he wouldn’t be acting this way. 

You may have said something to him about his behavior, but if you’re met with nonchalance and disinterest, then it should be really clear about how he actually cares about you. Saying one thing and doing the opposite should not be tolerated.

If you have had enough of dealing with his cold behavior, I strongly recommend checking out my 30-day Sagittarius Man Love Challenge… It will set you on the right path with your Sag guy.

7. He Openly Flirts With Other Women

Sagittarius men have a real issue with deep intimacy and commitment, but my, are these men very charming? They can make any woman swoon. A Sagittarius man will show you how he feels about you if you just pay attention.

Have you ever noticed your Sagittarius man being very openly flirtatious with other women? This is him signaling to you that he isn’t very serious about you and that he is probably just using you for sex. 

He wants to look like the bad guy so that you will end up ending things with him, meaning that you need to do the hard work. Sagittarius men can be very callous and uncaring, especially with the feelings of others. 

Sleeping with you and hitting on other women in front of you is definitely not cool. He is showing you who he is, believe him!

Are Sagittarius Men Players?

Sagittarius men have a very bad reputation for a reason. These guys are well known for their Casanova status. They are known players and they actually take major pride in this. They don’t want to be attached to anyone.

A Sagittarius man is non-committal and he wants to experience the variety of life. He wants to be with as many women as he possibly can and he doesn’t care if he leaves a string of broken hearts behind him. 

Getting involved with a Sagittarius man is definitely a risk. Be careful with these guys because they will definitely charm you, but the chances of him telling the truth are slim to none. Always be cautious around a Sagittarius man.

How To Play A Sagittarius Man At His Own Game

Taking on a Sagittarius man at his own game is quite a mighty risk you are willing to take. No one is better at this than them and the reason they are so good at this is because they are simply being themselves.

A Sagittarius man needs freedom and independence, he doesn’t have to pretend about it. It is exactly what he wants and craves to his core. This is why it is so difficult for others to fool him because he knows they are being inauthentic.

However, one way to really mess with him is to cancel plans with him last minute. This is a move he often pulls with women cos he knows this makes them addicted to him. He won’t expect you to do this.

By putting him second he will do whatever he can to prove to you that he is fun to be around. He will try his very best to win you over. This is how you play him at his own game, by doing exactly what he does. Imitate his behavior and see what happens.

FAQ About Sagittarius Man Playing You

Why Do Sagittarius Man Play Mind Games?

The thing you might not expect is that a Sagittarius man isn’t even playing mind games, he is just being himself. He doesn’t want to be tethered or attached to anyone, so he actually doesn’t care.

If your Sagittarius man is playing mind games with you, he is showing you that he isn’t serious about you and that the connection you two have is just a bit of fun for him. Believe him when he shows you who he is.

How To Know If A Sagittarius Man Is Serious About You?

When a Sagittarius man is serious about you, you get to see a side to him that not many people ever do. When he is around you he will be super optimistic and positive. He will talk about the future with you in it. 

He will always be forthright and honest with you and your intuition will never tell you he is lying to you. You’ll just be able to trust him without a shadow of a doubt. 

He’ll be very sweet and caring towards you. He will go out of his way to make you feel special and cared for. You will get to see a side of him that not many people get to see. He can be very generous and he will lavish you with gifts.

Does Your Sagittarius Man Become Distant After Intimacy?

Does your Sagittarius man pull away or get quiet when you’ve just had a deep emotional connection? Does he seem to disappear just when you thought he was getting closer? Have you felt confused by his hot and cold behavior?

If so, then he might have an avoidant attachment style.

He could be Dismissive Avoidant and completely terrified of commitment… Or he could be Fearful Avoidant and REALLY want commitment…

If he has either one of these attachment styles, you’re going to end up feeling extremely confused at times. And both are caused by childhood trauma.

When you can see the scared little boy inside him that had to shut down his feelings if he’s dismissive avoidant… Or have a parent not provide his needs consistently if he’s fearful avoidant…

It can make it easier to have empathy and compassion for his confusing and frustrating behavior.

But that won’t fix it.

And while advice on attachment styles can be helpful… What you really need to stop this frustrating hot and cold cycle is to understand him better.

Thankfully, there is a simple system to TRULY understand how he ticks based on his astrology.

It will stop him from pulling back when you begin feeling closer. And it will accomplish this in only 30 days.

So no more crying yourself to sleep when he pulls back… No more feeling incredibly confused. And no more wondering what in the heck is going on with him…

Even if he has an avoidant attachment style…

>> Go here now to turn things around with your Sagittarius man in 30 days or less <<



About Author

Hi, this is Anna Kovach. I am a professional Relationship Astrologer and author of dozens of bestselling books and programs. For over a decade I’ve been advising commitment-seeking women like you and helping them understand, attract and keep the man of their dreams using the astonishing power of astrology. Join over 250K subscribers on my newsletter or follow me on social media! Learn more about me and how I can help you here.

5 thoughts on “How To Know If A Sagittarius Man Is Playing You (7 Signs To Look For)

  1. This explains Randy to a T. Nothing works with this guy. He’s hot and cold, in and out, up and down, wants a relationship, wants his freedom. I give up! I’m so done with this guy. He’s driven me crazy for three frustrating years and now “I AM OUT!!!”

    1. Hi Pam!

      Oh my goodness it sounds like the Sagittarius guy you encountered wasn’t actually ready for a relationship. One that is ready will not go back and forth like that. He will go right for it, make it official, and that’s that. You’ll know because they’ll be “all in” because in their mind you’re the right one. It’s just confusing to get there. Just like any guy…. they have to be ready. If you’d like to know more, check out my books on Sagittarius Man Secrets.

  2. “You sit down and begin to open up… annnnd he’s making jokes again.”

    Couldn’t be more accurate…. *eye roll*

    1. Hi Bella!

      If he cannot take what you’re saying seriously it’s because what you’re saying makes him uncomfortable or he’s just not that serious about you. A true Sagittarius man who sees you as his partner will not treat you that way. Jokes can be there but he also knows when to be serious. Sometimes he can be so serious that he’s very blunt and can come across as cold. It’s all in which Sagittarius man you choose to be your partner. They’re all different. Check out my books sometime on Sagittarius Man Secrets.

  3. This basically describes a narcissist. I’m going through this presently and the disrespect to my feelings is outrageous. Yet he accused me of disrespecting him and is unable to give me an explanation as to how I have done this. It’s not a healthy relationship.

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